There’s one universal reason we all go to a Cabaret, male or female, gay or straight. That reason is attention. Maybe you don’t get the attention you deserve (or feel you deserve) from a significant other, your family, your job, or from anyone for that matter. When you step inside that Cabaret, for that brief time, you’re a star…the center of attention. Whether you’re a champagne room consignor or a $1 table dance extraordinaire, you’re guaranteed to be shown the attention you so rightfully deserve.

But there’s an unspoken league of exotic dancers that see this attention giving ability as a highly potent drug that should be administered in dosages…and they deserve medical school degrees for mastering such a craft.

This ability to administer attention in a manner and fashion that makes the “victim” (or customer) feel desired and wanted beyond their wildest desires is known as Seduction. Empires have been conquered because of it. Civilizations have been ruled and destroyed because of it. Dreams have come true and been shattered because of it. And most importantly, hearts have been broken and mended because of it. But is it bad? Or necessary? Look at it this way, without it, human nature and mankind could not function. This world is made up of leaders and followers. Seduction allows leaders to continue to lead as well as becoming extremely vulnerable to seduction and forced to follow. Seduction allows followers to follow without question or in some cases, gain unspeakable advantages over those who they could never usually lead.

1. Choose the Right Victim (Customer)
The right victim is you and I. We have “seduce me please” on our foreheads the moment we walk through the door of the Cabaret. First we have to look at why we’re there. To have fun? To see beautiful faces and bodies? Attention? Fantasize? To fill a void? In any case, the dancers already know this. They are fully aware that you have a desire that needs to be fulfilled, an itch that needs scratching. Luckily, because of their profession, fishing out such victims isn’t extremely difficult given the environment but it’s the great dancers who can weed out the most susceptible in any crowd.

2. Create a False Sense of Security
Ever feel like you met the person of your dreams in a Cabaret? Or maybe feel like of all the people in the venue, you’re the only one the dancer cares about? Welcome to deception. Once the dancer has narrowed you out from the rest of cattle and realizes you have some money to spend mixed with the desire to feel wanted, its time to drop the bait. The dancer who is a master of their craft never comes on too strong. Coming on too strong creates an instant defense from the customer and the dancer gets nowhere. Indirectly, the dancer approaches you, maybe even has a drink with you, makes you feel comfortable and in a short time creates a feeling of security. You now think you have a beautiful friend who is considering doing all the nasty things you’re thinking of doing to them. You are now at their whim.

3. Send Mixed Signals
So now you think you’re halfway in love and are thinking of taking the dancer out of this lifestyle and moving to the suburbs. If the dancer is good at what they do, your eyes are fixated on them and you may even be drooling. If not, this step is where that feeling is created. Talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words. By sending mixed signals, the dancer creates desire. The dancer was just all over me, where is the dancer going? Why is the dancer showing that person attention now? Or maybe the dancer hasn’t left your side but seems uninterested or looking elsewhere. You want that attention they were just giving you and you are now becoming addicted to it. Therefore you do what it takes to keep them around and to continue to stroke your ego. The good dancers know how to create confusion and be contradictory in a fashion that makes it difficult to figure them out.

4. Appear to Be an Object of Desire
The seducer is already an object of desire…they’re an exotic dancer so they must be somewhat appealing to the eye. That is half the battle. The other half is relaying the message to you that they are desired by others. When the sexiest person in the building is showing only you attention when everyone else desires that person, you become full of infatuation. The ability to be the only one to have what so many others want feeds the ego and allows the customer to become even more susceptible to seduction. A feeling of importance and vanity is established. The bait is now dropped.

5. Create a Need – Stir Anxiety and Discontent
This is where things go to the next level. At this point, you may have had a drink or two with the dancer and maybe even spent a few dollars getting dances at your seat. But the dancer is not satisfied….the dancer is never satisfied. They want something more private, more intimate. The dancer is upset that there is so many people around or that you two do not have sufficient peace and quiet to get to know each other a little better. After all, this is the attention you wanted so to see the person who has been feeding your need upset and discontent, the seduction has become more intense. You want to make this person happy as they have been doing so for you.

We can’t give you guys all 10 now but lookout for Part 2.