Fingering or manual stimulation is great foreplay, great sex play, and great fun. It seems like a real no-brainer, fingering. However, there are some common mistakes that can be a real turn off for your partner. Here are some tips to make sure your finger is always taken the right way.

1. The first step is to massage her mound with palm. Tell her to gently ride your palms to start with.

2. Apply some lubricant to your fingertip and trace the outer of her vagina to know how wet she is. Also lubricant will help her glide over your fingers smoothly. Gently touch her clitoris and her opening. Start very slow at first and then gradually move up and down or side movements.

3. Soon she will become excited and then you can put a finger into her vagina but very gently. Insert your finger as far as it can go, may be up to your second or third knuckle. If you know her G spot, rub it with a circular motion that is smooth and regular. Now start with the finger intercourse moving your finger in and out of her vagina. At the same time use the thumb of the same hand to massage her clitoris. You should have a rhythm and coordination that is perfect.

4. When she really gets to a high point, her breathing will change and vagina muscles will flex against your hand movements. To help build her orgasm, it is advisable to push your fingers against her thrusts. Continue stimulating her with the regular rhythm. Rhythm is important because it gives her the orgasm and stopping it might result in her losing the sensation and orgasm altogether. So even if she starts to moan or groan and scream don’t stop the rhythmic stimulation.