Many women are less than thrilled when their better halves head out for a night at the gentlemen’s club with the guys. It’s understandable; jealousy is a strong emotion, and the thought of a sexy dancer grinding on her loved one is enough to get any lady worked up. This can lead to trust issues and resentment, which nobody wants in a relationship.

So what do you do when you still want to relax at the club, but your woman would rather you stay home with her? Bring her to the club with you. As surprising as it may seem, women are intrigued by the world of exotic dancing, but may be too embarrassed to admit it for fear of looking too kinky or overly sexual. Bringing your significant other with you will not only relieve her fears about what happens at exotic dance clubs, but will also provide another sexual outlet for you two to explore together.

While with some women it may just take simply asking if they’d like to go with you to a gentlemen’s club, others may be shy about it at first. It’s important to gauge your partner’s comfort level. If she is on the reserved side, try going to a burlesque show first. The women never get down to less than pasties, and the playful element of it keeps it from being overtly sexual. Once your woman is comfortable with the idea of you watching other women dance in very little clothing, the gentlemen’s club will seem less scary.

With any woman new to the world of exotic dance, though, it is important to observe her behavior and let her dictate how far you both will go. This means not jumping at the chance to buy her a lap dance, as much as you would in enjoy watching it. Grab a couple of seats near the stage–but not right on top of it–and let your partner settle in to the experience. Pay attention to her, watch how she reacts to different dancers and note how different dancers react to her. If all you get that night is your partner tipping a few dancers she enjoyed, consider that a good night, and if you can get her to share a lap dance with you, well that’s even better.

Of course, even with the lap dance, you have to be careful. Do not leave your woman alone with her drink while you go off to some corner for 20 minutes. Share the experience with your partner, either by getting tandem dances, or by splitting a dance with one dancer. Whether you have one dancer, two, or more if you are so lucky, a good dancer will involve both of you in the experience, which is why paying attention to how dancers react to your woman, as I mentioned earlier, is crucial to the experience.

Sharing a lap dance with your partner is a wonderful way for the two of you to explore your sexual fantasies without going too far. You both can take that experience back home and use it to spice up your lovemaking without going past your boundaries. And from now on whenever things get a little routine, a visit to the gentlemen’s club can provide just the right amount of excitement to get the fire burning again.